I read Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans. I don’t read many self-help type of books, especially don’t recommend many. This one is special for me. It resonated and I’ve actually recommended it to others. This book was suggested to me by a very good friend. I likely would never have picked it up if she didn’t suggest it to me. She also generally is not one for self-help books or recommending them to others but considered this one as one that can actually be useful based on where I was in my life at that point.

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I’m arguably as lost as I am found today. I know exactly where I am at this moment, even if I may not know at all where I am going. In a sense, I have no direction. However at the same time, I have an exhausting list of potential directions.

It is okay to be lost. It is okay to not feel like I have direction. Honestly, that is not how I have been feeling. I’m writing this to both try to will that feeling that it’s okay into being as well as acknowledging to myself that some part of…


If you’re coming here from the Women in Product Conference, I hope this article will serve as a complementary guide to my talk. If you’ve discovered this post on your own, kudos to you! I hope this will give you some helpful perspective to reflect on and I’m also including the video version of my talk from the [virtual] conference below. If you’d like to skip to the F.A.Q., scroll all the way to the end 😉.

First and foremost, thank you for tuning in. I really appreciate it. It warms my heart. It’s crazy times right now, and…


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Since I’ve started teaching product management, I’ve found some of the same questions come up. These same questions have also come up when I mentor and coach PMs early in their careers or those looking to transition into PM, as well as when I’m speaking at some product conferences. I’ve taken some quick time to write down my answers in this post so that it will be more widely accessible to those that may find it useful, especially if I haven’t had a chance to speak with you one on one.

Without further ado:

What are some effective ways to say “no” to stakeholders?

First listen, really listen and make…


I read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. This is the first meditation, spirituality book I’ve read in this phase of my life journey; exploration and going deeper into myself, on this journey of self improvement and growth. It was recommended several times and came up a handful of times in my research on where to start. I decided to start with this book and then move on to The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh, book report coming soon. …


I took The Science of Well-Being class, free on Coursera, from Yale University by Professor Laurie Santos. At first I wanted to write a sort of reflection and ‘book report’ just for me, to further encapsulate what I learned throughout the course. Now sharing it publicly as well, in case it’s useful for anyone thinking about taking the course, re-committing to continuing it, or just interested in strategies they can utilize to feel better.

TL;DR

I think this course is awesome. It’s amazing that it’s free. It was a great use of my time. It came into my life at a…

Anya Ruvinskaya

personal: curious, exploring outside & in — professional: tech, product.

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